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Back in 2011:
On average I hear from three new adoptees each week. That is good. That was and is my prayer. That is why I am a journalist who blogs about adoption news and being adopted. I will help anyone who contacts me and I will get them the help they need if I cannot do it myself.
I have been working all year on a brand new second edition of ONE SMALL SACRIFICE and it should be out in a few weeks. It's the same book with a few more chapters. It has two prefaces, four major chapters and an epilogue. Also, there is a new WARNING to readers that this is NOT a chronology but written as I was learning and remembering my own childhood and doing the search for my family. My book has Indian history born of pain and experience, history you won't read in newspapers or mentioned in North American classrooms.
One of the best comments I hear is I did a lot of research. Yes, indeed. Over five years and counting and I am still learning.
Book 2: TWO WORLDS: Lost Children of the Indian Adoption Projects is ready and we are looking for a publisher. This new anthology goes further and tells individual adoptee stories, in their own words. This book will change hearts and exposes more of our history! I will let you know when we do get it published.
The ultimate goal of this blog is to find new adoptees (Lost Children of the Indian Adoption Projects) and to have a group of adoptees testify before Congress to expose how we were adopted and erased from our tribal nations - deliberately. Some of us were physically and sexually abused (YES) and in many states we are STILL denied access to adoption records so we cannot go home to our tribes and families.
A few days ago I made a new relative in South Dakota, Evelyn Red Lodge, also an adoptee and a journalist at Native Sun News. Evelyn is working to make these hearings happen, in the not-too-distant future. She helped NPR do their three-part investigation (posted on this blog in November) which made headlines across the globe.
Adoptees like Evelyn and Sandy White Hawk at First Nations Orphans Association are rewriting history and helping others to heal with their activism. Here is a link to Evelyn's story on Indianz.com: http://64.38.12.138/News/2011/003731.asp
Evelyn is helping to organize a rally for residents in South Dakota to stop the adoptions of Indian children in her state. More happen each day, in violation of the Indian Child Welfare Act. 32 states are in violation of the Indian Child Welfare Act, according to recent NPR reports.
As I wrote on this blog, our governments in North American made us orphans and sealed our records so we'd disappear completely. But they can't erase our blood or our memory.
If erasure was the intention of the Indian Adoption Projects - to separate families and ensure adoptees would lose contact with their tribal relatives - in many ways they succeeded.
Now, today, our major task is to expose this attempted ethnic cleansing and rejoin our families and our nations.
Until all adoption records are open, in particular the Indian Adoption Projects and Indian Programs, conducted secretly in many states, I will not rest.
And neither should you...
I had no clue that Minnesota kept mother's gifts to their child lost to adoption!
What kind of system is this? REALLY?
YOU KNEW Minnesota opened all sealed adoption records July 1. Yes, I sent in a check but sent the wrong form (and it costs $40) so I am
reapplying to get my original birth certificate (OBC). I have waited
over 65 years to hold this stinking piece of paper in my hands. It will
say my mother is HELEN THRALL. I know that. But it will be nice to
have physical paper proof. Many adoptees are not given access to their
own OBC.
Here is the shocker: This story hit Minnesota newspapers this week.
If you were adopted out of that state like me, the state has been
holding mementos from mothers to give to their child given up for
adoption.
ARE YOU KIDDING ME? Where did they store all this stuff?
Thousands, maybe a million babies were adopted out of Minnesota… What about other states? OMG!
‘Minnesota could actually be the leader in figuring this out’ - OH REALLY!?!
WHO KNEW? The change in state law — which went into
effect on July 1 — has brought renewed attention to personal effects
kept in adoption files. The agency which once placed children will now
support adopted people in claiming these gifts. WHAT THE HELL?
No one, including me, knew anything about this… I
knew an adoptee who said her mother sent letters to the adoption agency
in Mississippi to give to her but the adoptee never knew, and only got
the letters years later, after she met her biological mom. Her mom told
her she sent several.
Personal histories, items can be claimed by adult
adoptees from Minnesota’s DHS files
Permanency Supports Grant Manager
Crystal Graves explains the concept of personal effects during an informational
gathering about recent adoption law changes at the Minneapolis American Indian
Center on July 11.
MINNESOTA PUBLIC RADIO
On a warm July evening, a group of
fewer than a dozen people met at the Minneapolis American Indian Center to
share information about how adopted adults can claim personal items left for
them at the time of their adoption by their birth parents.
Ann Haines Holy Eagle searched and
found her birth family many years ago and now advocates for Native American
children and families, including fellow adoptees.
Ann Haines Holy Eagle (center),
Minneapolis urban representative for the Indian Child Welfare Advisory Council,
speaks with adoptee advocate Sandy White Hawk during a gathering at the
Minneapolis American Indian Center on July 11. Ben Hovland | MPR News
“If I would have had something from
my mom ... just to know that my mom loved me, you know, or thought enough to
send something with me to fight in this world. It would have made a huge
difference,” said Haines Holy Eagle.
For the past several decades
activists have pushed for access to birth and adoption records. Last year, the
state Legislature answered those calls, making state birth records available to
adoptees for the first time.
The change in state law — which went
into effect on July 1 — has brought renewed attention to personal effects kept
in adoption files. The agency which once placed children will now support
adopted people in claiming these gifts.
Haines Holy Eagle and members of the
Indian Child Welfare Act Advisory Council, which advises DHS, first learned
about personal effects kept by agency this past spring during a routine
meeting. She says they learned about items kept in storage for decades — items
of personal value, including photos, family heirlooms and small keepsakes.
Haines Holy Eagle said she and others
were taken by surprise.
“We were just kind of shook,” said
Haines Holy Eagle.
Haines Holy Eagle and members of the
advisory group invited DHS representatives to present that same information to
members of the community.
Piikuni adoptee Kirk Crow Shoe
smudges DHS employee Crystal Graves (left) with eagles feathers and sage during
a healing ceremony at the Minneapolis American Indian Center on July 11. Ben Hovland | MPR News
At the public event in July, adult
adoptees let DHS staff know they’d like to approach the process not as a
private matter, but as a community.
Haines Holy Eagle said she’s
prepared to use the wisdom gained through her personal experience to lead the
process of claiming personal effects.
She says the work should center on
the experiences of adopted people in connection with their birth and adoptive
communities.
“It’s time for us to be at the
forefront of our healing and truth and reconciliation,” said Haines Holy
Eagle.
DHS staff member Crystal Graves
began her presentation to the community by explaining that she’s
handled these personal effects going back 20 years. Throughout the
evening, Graves told everyone she welcomes input from the adoption
community in re-thinking how DHS can help adoptees request their belongings.
She explained to the small gathering
how adopted adults can make a request to claim their belongings — what
paperwork to fill out and where to send it.
Few
adoptees know personal effects exist
Adoptees have been able to recover
personal effects for years. DHS says they have followed statutory
requirements that mandate confidentiality of adoption records, and they say
it’s likely most adoptees don’t know they might have a personal effect in their
file. DHS says only a few adoptees recover personal effects from their
adoption files every year.
DHS provided MPR News with general
information about the personal effects associated with adoption files but
declined to make a staff member available for interview.
The agency estimates approximately
7,500 adoption files contain personal effects — less than 10 percent of all the
adoption files kept by the agency.
The handwritten words
“For-Get-Me-Not” appear in an Easter greeting card addressed to “Bobby”
displayed on a table in the Minnesota Department of Human Services building in
St. Paul. Photographed on July 5. Ben Hovland | MPR News
Haines Holy Eagle says she believes
it’s possible that DHS has held onto these personal effects because they
prioritized the wishes of adoptive parents over those of adoptees.
“You want it to be respectful of the
adoptive parents, you didn’t want to disrespect them because you want them to
feel like this is my new start. This is my new family,” said Haines Holy Eagle.
DHS estimates about ninety percent
of the personal effects associated with adoption files are photos and the
remaining ten percent are family documents.
DHS did allow MPR News to document a
small number of personal effects in files over 100 years old. A black and white photo shows a baby
in a pram. Another black and white photo shows a group of three siblings
standing in front of a farm building. One of the personal items is a
handcrafted Easter card. Inside is a hand pasted image of forget-me-not
flowers, the signature page signed by the child’s birth parent.
Another item is a family document,
an ornate baptismal certificate in the adoption file dating from just before
1920.
DHS points out the agency no longer
places children up for adoption, following changes to adoption law in the
1980s. Still, as a state agency, DHS receives adoption files from placing
agencies that have closed. DHS says its staff are still cataloging
thousands of files, some of which contain still more personal effects.
DHS says it’s likely that current
adoption placing agencies have adoption files, and those may contain more
gifts.
Seventy-three-year-old Lakota
adoptee Pearl Brave Heart fills out post adoption search forms during the
adoptee law informational gathering on July 11. Ben Hovland | MPR News PHOTO: Lakota adoptee Pearl Brave Heart,
73, shares the story of her adoption into a family of German descent as DHS
employee Crystal Graves listens during a gathering at the Minneapolis American
Indian Center on July 11. Ben Hovland | MPR News
‘Minnesota
could actually be the leader in figuring this out’
One adoptee advocate says Minnesota
could be the first in the country to help people recover their
belongings.
Attorney Gregory Luce is the
executive director of the Adoptee Rights Law Center and sometimes helps
adoptees obtain court orders to open their adoption files.
“It’s taken 80 years to talk about
personal effects,” said Luce. “[Adoptees] have become inured to this idea that
you’re entitled to nothing.”
Luce, who is also an adoptee,
applauds the state for its renewed effort at helping adoptees claim their
belongings.
“It’s huge, because it didn’t take a
court order to make them do this. And so, Minnesota could actually be the
leader in figuring this out.”
The beginning of the work to recover
these personal effects was marked with a ceremony held during the July meeting
at the Minneapolis American Indian Center. An elder performed a healing
ceremony first for DHS staff member Crystal Graves and then invited members of
the adoption community to join.
DHS says it will reconvene
workgroups with members of the adoption community this fall.
Individuals interested in initiating
a search can fill out the post adoption search form at the Foster
Adopt Minnesota website.
👉 The Brutal Past and Uncertain Future of Native Adoptions.
“It is our right as Indian nations to raise our children,” said Sandy
White Hawk, founder of the Minnesota-based First Nations Repatriation
Institute, which serves Native people affected by adoption and foster
care.
In 1958, the Indian Adoption Project(s) were created “to stimulate
adoption of American Indian children by Caucasian families on a
nationwide basis.”
See a 1967 portrait of a Long Island family,
the Zuckermans, who took part in the project. The program was immensely popular in New York, which was already
the center of a robust and lucrative adoption marketplace.
Such
treatment of Native parents and caretakers by white social workers
was not uncommon, but the Devils Lake Sioux were among the first to
fight back publicly. Members of the tribe, which is now called the
Spirit Lake Tribe, traveled to New York for a news
conference at the Indian Affairs office arranged that summer. CLICK: [https://turtletalk.files.wordpress.com/2018/11/proquestdocuments-2018-11-09.pdf.]
The
entire argument for eradicating the Indian Child Welfare Act was
expressed in a white supremacist poem by Robert Louis Stevenson that I
expect Samuel Alito to quote in the opinion, with zero sense of irony:
Little Indian, Sioux, or Crow,
Little frosty Eskimo,
Little Turk or Japanee,
Oh! don't you wish that you were me?
You have seen the scarlet trees
And the lions over seas;
You have eaten ostrich eggs,
And turned the turtle off their legs.
Such a life is very fine,
But it's not so nice as mine:
You must often as you trod,
Have wearied NOT to be abroad.
You have curious things to eat,
I am fed on proper meat;
You must dwell upon the foam,
But I am safe and live at home.
Little Indian, Sioux or Crow,
Little frosty Eskimo,
Little Turk or Japanee,
Not Feeling “American Enough”: The Mental Impact of Cross-Cultural Adoption.
“For adoptees in the adoptee community, to move forward is to have
allies,” she explains. “The narrative [around cross-cultural adoption
tends to] lie with adoptive parents, and so we need them to elevate our
stories, to elevate us in order for people to know that there is another
narrative out there. It's not this fairy tale.”
👀Let's celebrate - over TWO MILLION VIEWS on our little website! THANK YOU! -TLH
We are thrilled to have Sandy White Hawk in conversation with Gabrielle Glaser next week, each discussing their work, Sandy’s new memoir (a
must read), and the impact and future of the Indian Child Welfare Act.
Plus, Sandy and Gabrielle will discuss their recent work together on a
documentary project about the history and legacy of the federal Indian
residential school system in the United States.
Don't
miss a great virtual event that will discuss timely and incredibly
important issues around adoption, adoptee rights, and the profound
impact of forced removal of Native American children from their parents
and communities.
I hope to see you there. Be good, and keep up the hard work.
Greg
Yes, the event will be recorded and available later to those who register. :)
Minnesota was already among the 12 states with a law that mirrors some
or all of the protections of the Indian Child Welfare Act (ICWA),
federal legislation passed decades ago to protect Indigenous families
from unnecessary family separation.
But the state Legislature went further this year with enhancements to
the Minnesota Indian Family Preservation Act, which was originally
passed in 1985. The bill moves to Gov. Tim Walz’s desk as the nation
waits for a ruling from the Supreme Court on a case called Brackeen v.
Haaland, which could decide the fate of ICWA as a national law. A
decision in the case is expected this summer.
“This bill says that we agree on Minnesota land that our children
deserve the opportunity to have access to their family, their culture,
their beliefs, and what I believe is the most beautiful part of
Minnesota,” Rep. Heather Keeler told lawmakers in advance of the floor
vote.
A group of leading organizations in child welfare is working to build
a new path for quickly licensing kin as foster parents.
The Imprint Weekly Podcast
Episode 122: We Were Once a Family, with Journalist and Author Roxanna Asgarian
On
this week’s podcast we discuss some updates on the Indian Child Welfare
Act front, Minnesota becoming a trans youth refuge, and the blind spot
in America’s knowledge of youth justice.
Imprint alum Roxanna Asgarian joins to discuss her new book, “We Were
Once a Family: A Story of Love, Death, and Child Removal in America,”
which traces the lives and families of six children killed by their
adoptive parents in March of 2018. HERE
On this week’s podcast, we begin a two-part interview between
Imprint reporter Nancy Marie Spears and Sandy White Hawk, author of the
recently released memoir A Child of the Indian Race: A Story of Return.
White Hawk’s recounts her own adoption story, which began in 1955,
decades before the Indian Child Welfare Act was passed to protect
Indigenous families from being separated.
This conversation comes just months after the Supreme Court heard
arguments in a case called Brackeen v. Haaland, in which several
non-Indigenous families and the State of Texas have claimed that ICWA is
unconstitutional. A decision in the case is expected to be delivered
this summer.
Guest Interview: Sandy White Hawk is a Sicangu Lakota adoptee from the Rosebud
Reservation, South Dakota. She is the founder and director of First
Nations Repatriation Institute
Adoption Mosaic this Saturday has a great program
discussing an alphabet of laws that control many aspects of adoptions,
particularly transracial adoptions and adoptions from Native American
communities. Featuring Sandy White Hawk, Jordan Davis, Torie DiMartile,
Daryle Conquering Bear Crow, and Summer Sullivan, the program discusses
the Multi Ethnic Placement Act, Inter Ethnic Placement Act, and the
Indian Child Welfare Act and their impact on adoption, communities,
and adopted people.
An adoptee reconnects with the
Lakota family and culture she was born into— and nurtures a new
tradition that helps others to do the same.
In the 1950s, when Sandy White Hawk was a
toddler, she was taken from her Lakota family on the Rosebud Indian
Reservation in South Dakota. Her adoption papers identify her as “a
child of the Indian race,” and her adoptive mother never let her forget
it, telling her she was unwanted and shaming her for being “Indian.”
White Hawk medicated her traumas with drugs and alcohol. At age
twenty-eight, she gained sobriety and reconnected with her birth
relatives. As she learned what it means to be Lakota, she also learned
that thousands of Native adoptees shared her experience—left to navigate
racial and cultural complexities as children, with no way to understand
what was happening to them.
Mentored by a respected elder, White Hawk
began to work with relatives who also had been separated by adoption and
foster care, taken away from their families and communities. Fighting
through her feelings of inadequacy, she accepted that she could use her
voice to advocate. Ultimately, White Hawk founded the First Nations
Repatriation Institute, an organization that addresses the post-adoption
issues of Native American individuals, families, and communities.
White Hawk lectures and presents widely on
the issues around adoption. She exposes the myth that adoption is a path
to protecting "unwanted children" from "unfit mothers," offering a
child a "better chance at life." Rather, adoption, particularly
transracial adoption, is layered in complexities. “A Child of the Indian
Race” is Sandy White Hawk's story, and it is the story of her life
work: helping other adoptees and tribal communities to reconcile the
enormous harms caused by widespread removals.
Advance Praise
“Of all human rights assaults on Native peoples in the United States, the stealing of Native children is perhaps the most heartbreaking. Adopted by a white couple, Sandy White Hawk grew up without cultural defenses against the onslaught of racism and
erasure she experienced. Her eloquent, riveting book takes the reader
on her journey back home and toward her life’s work: helping Native
families to reconnect and, together, face down generations of trauma.” Suzan Shown Harjo (Cheyenne and Hodulgee Muscogee), writer, curator, policy advocate, and recipient of a 2014 Presidential Medal of Freedom
"In this profoundly moving
memoir, Sandy White Hawk, Sicangu Lakota, speaks eloquently of her life
as a young child adopted by a white family. It is an intensely personal
story of resilience and perseverance in spite of trauma, racism, and
painful truths. At the core of her healing is her tribe’s Welcome Home
song and ceremony for adoptees. To all Native adoptees, this book is a
must read. Welcome home." Denise Lajimodiere (Turtle Mountain Band of Chippewa), author of Stringing Rosaries: The History, the Unforgivable, and the Healing of Northern Plains American Indian Boarding School Survivors
"Worthy
of a novel—but true. A young child is transported to a strange place
where she is challenged to overcome events no child should have to face.
She lives in a world that doesn’t recognize or accept her, all the
while being told that this is in her own best interest. This is a story
about the triumph of the human spirit that finds love, acceptance, and
purpose in restoring hope to others who were also lost. William A. Thorne, Jr. (Pomo and Coast Miwok), retired tribal and state court judge
"Since
the 1870s, first through boarding schools and then through forced
adoptions, federal bureaucrats have permanently removed Native children
from their families. Their goal was the erasure of Native people; the
result was trauma and severely damaged families. Sandy White Hawk, who
lived this adoption experience, has become a strong advocate for Native
people and Native families. In this compelling and immensely readable
story, her compassion and dignity shine through." Anita Fineday(White Earth Tribal Nation), managing director, Indian Child Welfare Program, Casey Family Programs
“Sandy White Hawk is ‘a child of the Indian
race.’ This is her powerful memoir of coming home to the Rosebud Sioux
Reservation in South Dakota as an ‘Indian adoptee.’ It is a story of
much suffering and great courage, and it highlights the indelible
importance of song, ceremony, culture, and landscape in the arduous
journey towards truth, reconciliation, and healing. It is also a
journey greatly facilitated by the vision and hard work of many Native
mentors, families, and communities. Read this book. It will change
you.” Frank Pommersheim, professor of law and associate justice, Rosebud Sioux Tribe Supreme Court
Author Information
Sandy White Hawk is a Sicangu Lakota adoptee from the Rosebud
Reservation, South Dakota. She is the founder and director of First
Nations Repatriation Institute, which offers resources for First Nations
people impacted by foster care or adoption to return home, reconnect,
and reclaim their identity. White Hawk is Director of Healing
Programs at the National Native American Boarding School Healing
Coalition and was elder-in-residence at the Indian Child Welfare Law
Office in Minneapolis. She is the subject of several documentaries,
including Blood Memory: A Story of Removal and Return.
Gene Thin Elk (Great Sicangu Nation) is an internationally known consultant in the area of Indigenous healing methods.
Terry Cross (Seneca
Nation) is the founding executive director of the National Indian Child
Welfare Association. He is the author of the Heritage and Helping and
Positive Indian Parenting curriculum, as well as Cross-Cultural Skills
in Indian Child Welfare.
Interior Sec. Deb Haaland vows to
continue to investigate U.S. Indian boarding schools and support healing
efforts for tribal communities impacted by intergenerational trauma
caused by the schools.
Many students faced physical, mental, spiritual and sexual abuse. And, many students did not make it back home.
Sec.
Haaland testified Wednesday before the U.S. Senate Committee on Indian
Affairs on the findings of her federal Indian boarding school
initiative, which she announced last June.
A
report released in May found there were 408 schools across the U.S.
from 1819 to 1969, and about 53 marked or unmarked burial sites
identified.
Boarding school policies focused on cultural assimilation, and the forced removal and relocation of Native children.
Sec.
Haaland says as the investigation continues, the next step is to gather
testimony, find support for healing, and resources for language and
culture initiatives.
“I
recently announced we will embark on the road to healing, a tour to hear
directly from survivors and descendants. A necessary part of this
journey will be to connect survivors and their families with mental
health support, create a permanent collection of oral histories. We know
this won’t be easy, but this is a history we must learn from if we are
to heal from this tragic era in our country.”
The hearing also focused on Indian boarding school legislation (S. 2907) to create a commission to help locate and analyze records, and hold culturally appropriate hearings.
Sandra
White Hawk, board president of the National Native American Boarding
School Healing Coalition, was among a panel of Native leaders to testify
in support of the legislation.
“It
will open up wounds, but in order for us to heal we need to air out
those wounds and replace them with the medicines that we have within our
ceremonies, our songs along with our mental health professionals that
can help us as well. Most importantly, what was taken from us our songs,
our lifeways that will bring the healing when our wounds are open from
that. There was an elder that was one of my teachers and he said we are
people that are well acquainted with grief. And, I’ve watched and seen
that as we’ve gone into communities and listened to experiences and
watched healing take place.”
Senators
on the Indian Affairs Committee, including chair Brian Schatz (D-HI),
vowed to continue to push the boarding school legislation forward and to
help find appropriations.
This post was written in 2014 - now UPDATED in 2021 for National Adoption Awareness Month (#NAAM2021)
By Trace L Hentz (formerly DeMeyer)
If you had asked me in 2004 what I had planned for myself, I would
have not said “writing” about adoption and child trafficking. I had just
left my editor’s job at the Pequot Times in Connecticut in August and
by September I was married, my second time. I have always known adoptees. It's like some (╋) magic radar that we seem to find each other... (which has always been life-saving for me.)
When I first started writing the article GENERATION AFTER GENERATION WE ARE COMING HOME in 2004, finally written and published in 2005 by American Indian Community House in New York City then in News From Indian Country, it was like a door opened. That door is still open and I am still learning (and blogging here and covering news). I am not in Higher Ed nor do I wish to be.
I write for adoptees like me. I am not a leader of adoptees/Lost Birds/SplitFeathers. I am
an adoptee, someone who gathers stories who happens to be trained as a journalist (aka blogger.)
Second, I do help adoptees (Native and non-Native) connect with one
another. There are plenty of adoptees with leadership skills, like my
friend Levi EagleFeather and Sandy WhiteHawk, both are Lakota. If
adoptees need ceremony, they are the people to approach. I am a bridge
and can help you reach them.
Third, I am an adoptee myself so I know what I went through. And I write
about it in great detail but that doesn't make me an expert. I do feel
like I have an advanced degree in adoption after 17+ years of reading
and writing on this topic. (And I'm 65 so it's a lived experience too.)
To me it doesn’t seem possible that those years went so fast
– I didn't have any idea my skills would
be put to use in this way. I am deeply humbled and deeply grateful to Great Spirit...Wakan
Tanka.
Since I started American Indian Adoptees in late 2009, I met and know many bloggers on the topic of adoption (and many are good friends to me). We had hoped
we’d made a strong and lasting impact by now.
We all knew:
The adoptee voice was missing.
Chapters of history were blank. The changes I worked for: giving voice to
adoptees and writing that chapter, and I did what I could. There are
four books in the Lost Children Book Series. That was the history few had ever documented...I had saved one article from Canada when I was working as a journalist at NFIC from 1996-1999. One!
Changing adoption? I had that dream myself. I
am not sure we can actually gauge or measure how worldviews of
adoption have changed. States still have adoption files sealed tight.
Are they hiding something? Are they afraid of a massive uprising of
adoptees? (There are an estimated 10 million of us, maybe more!) Are they
afraid we'll find out adoption agencies and churches were trafficking
in children? For a profit?
The governments of Canada and America have much to fear.
Other changes? If books on Amazon are an indication, adoptee
memoirs are still climbing the ranks over all the propaganda books about
how to adopt a baby.
If the statistics on adoption are any indication,
the number of babies adopted by Americans are dropping each and every
year. There is definitely a demand for infants (primarily because of
rising infertility since the 1950s) but there is still a short supply of newborn flesh to
adopt. (I do believe the adoption traffickers are constantly
reinventing new ways to grab a fresh supply of infants. Think of what
new poor countries or communities they will invade as the demand
increases!! Propaganda will change.)
Will there be more adoptees? Sadly yes.
A happy ending in the media erases the very real structural realities of
the adoption industrial complex, one that orchestrates the exchange of
babies for money. - Alexa Strabuk
What hasn’t changed much since 2004 are adoption
laws, sealed adoption files or the old archaic views of promised secrecy and
confidentiality for first mothers.
Haven’t we
moved past shaming women for unwed pregnancies? Yes, but not enough,
apparently. Lawmakers are still being wined and dined by adoption
agency lobbyists so I don’t expect to see much change in the laws – but I
hope I am wrong.
What I’d hoped would change faster is the perception
of adoption, that it’s not as great and wonderful for adoptees as the
public was made to believe. (In fact, vocal adoptees have changed
everything in that regard.)
As much as I’ve read in these past 17+
years, blogs
and books changed me beyond recognition!
Many times I
have emailed legislators (like in New Jersey and Illinois) and offered my
memoir (as a free book) hoping they would see the light and change
existing adoption laws. Maybe it helped?
The big question: Open Adoption--when adoption is necessary--is also an indication
that times are changing! But we have a long way to go…This is a quote I
saved about open adoption:
…ignored by the adoption agencies is the reality of “open
adoption.” Only 22 of fifty states in America (in 2014) recognize open adoption
agreements, but failure of the adoptive parents to comply with the
agreement is not legally enforceable by the surrendering mother. (It is failing from many accounts I have read.)
There are many excellent writers making profound statements too.
A quote by adoptee-author-blogger Elle Cuardaigh:
And
adoption certainly is “worked.” When supply of newborns decreased in the
1970s, the adoption industry had to put a new spin on relinquishment
to stay in business. Since women could not be so easily shamed by
single motherhood, they changed tactics. Potential suppliers (pregnant
women) are now encouraged to “make an adoption plan.” She reads the
“Dear Birthmother” letters and interviews hopeful adoptive parents. She
is provided with medical care and possibly even housing. She is
promised this is her choice, and that she can have ongoing contact with
her child in an open adoption. It would seem she has all the power, but
she is being systematically conditioned to accept her role, her place.
She doesn’t want to hurt the baby’s “real parents,” feels indebted to
them, emotionally invested. She is soon convinced they are better than
she is. She becomes “their birthmother.” It almost guarantees
relinquishment. READ Elle’s blog and new book THE TANGLED RED THREAD. Or visit: http://ellecuardaigh.com
Read any and all posts at THE LIFE OF VON. (Von has since passed.)
Powerful WRITING!
In Blogland, when your topic is adoption, you can never be free of
trolls, extremists, zealots, fundamentalists, missionaries, the
blinkered and the closed-minded. - (adoptee) Elizabeth Von Hughes
The number of excellent powerful blogs by adoptees and
first parents (and even some APs) exploded in the past 15 years but there are far fewer now.
Helping to writing and publish four books about the Indian
Adoption Projects and Programs and contributing to books like ADOPTIONLAND certainly changed me. And the Vance twins are doing a new anthology on Adoptionland and I have contributed (in 2021).
Back in 2014, #FliptheScript in November was brand new and really moved people - tweets
and comments were flying everywhere, some good, some not so good.
Discussion is still needed and the people who need to hear adoptees out
are the ones we don't reach that well: ADOPTIVE PARENTS. They have their
own fog to lift.
Last but not least: I am happily shocked this blog AMERICAN INDIAN ADOPTEES reached
over 1,600,000 million hits with 1800+ posts! If that is any indication, times really are a
changin’. Thanks to all the people who comment and read and subscribe!
There are thousands of Lost Children/Adoptees who are Native American. They are still out there. I do hope they find this blog and reach out and contact me!
There are two things I hope to see for Lost Bird Adoptees: A
class action lawsuit in the USA on behalf of those children who were
taken from their tribes because of the gov't programs (IAP and ARENA)
and admitting PUBLICLY it happened with a declaration of this FACT.
(Canada is now doing this for the 60s Scoop adoptees.)
I never would have guessed my life would move in the direction it did. I
want to thank those hundreds of adoptees and families who have
inspired me so much over past 17+ years.
So what will the next 17 years be like? I don’t have a clue.
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To Veronica Brown
Veronica, we adult adoptees are thinking of you today and every day. We will be here when you need us. Your journey in the adopted life has begun, nothing can revoke that now, the damage cannot be undone. Be courageous, you have what no adoptee before you has had; a strong group of adult adoptees who know your story, who are behind you and will always be so.
Diane Tells His Name
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Lost Birds on Al Jazeera Fault Lines
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NO MORE STOLEN SISTERS
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We conclude this series & continue the conversation by naming that adoption is genocide. This naming refers to the process of genocide that breaks kinship ties through adoption & other forms of family separation & policing 🧵#NAAM2022#AdoptionIsTraumaAND#AdopteeTwitter#FFY 1/6 pic.twitter.com/46v0mWISZ1
As the single largest unregulated industry in the United States, adoption is viewed as a benevolent action that results in the formation of “forever families.” The truth is that it is a very lucrative business with a known sales pitch. With profits last estimated at over $1.44 billion dollars a year, mothers who consider adoption for their babies need to be very aware that all of this promotion clouds the facts and only though independent research can they get an accurate account of what life might be like for both them and their child after signing the adoption paperwork.