I woke up with two thoughts: there are two victims of adoption who need help and not necessarily from each other: the adoptee and the first mother. Each has its own burden and neither can heal the other.
Poison is nothing to mess with. I spoke with an adoptee friend last night and Levi is sure we adoptees need to create new ceremonies, even some just for us adoptees. I was nodding at every word Levi said. A lifetime of isolation from what we know to be ours, our blood rights as Indigenous People, our language and culture and the healing offered by participating in ceremony, it was not ours growing up white and adopted and assimilated.
But we adoptees are not victims, Levi said. No, we are changed by adoption but not its victims.
Levi Eagle Feather has contributed to this blog.
This is the lost post, Part 4 of the series.