FROM Adoption Echoes (how the adoption story continues long after you figured it out)
Imminently, our legislators are seeking ways to pass the CHIFF legislation and their code is amazingly effective. It makes me wonder what is wrong with my brain that I seem to read their words in a completely different way than what I see. Right now, there are groups in the US who are in near hysterics about the “orphan crisis” in the world, mobilizing people to believe they must adopt, adoption is the only solution.
Every time this happens, I call upon my friends and colleagues who are adopted and it does feel like we are reading another language. We don’t agree universally on every issue, but I appreciate the passionate civility we dialogue. Our code has always been with the intention to have the adopted as the center of our focus. It is clear and trusted. I asked for help and I got it.
Melanie Chung-Sherman, my co-author, lives in a place that I swear speaks a different English at times. Her “Blessings” sign-off at the end of every email causes me to chuckle and I look to her to help me better understand the language religion plays in the adoption world. Living in a more secular, rather less evangelical, area has be me blind to the codeswitch. She agreed to write with me and help clarify from her perspective the code switching that happens in the world of “saving the orphan” movement that I struggle with.
So, here is our list of how the code is switching in our heads. I am hoping it drives you equally mad! I am hoping when you read the CHIFF legislation and future media pieces on adoption that you may begin to see the code for yourself.
- child advocates- code for those in support of perpetuating and increasing the number of foreign born children being adopted to White American couples. If you read the list of supporters of the CHIFF legislation, the list of adoptee organizations and organizations internationally recognized as working for preserving children in their country/family of origin is glaringly light.
- children in families first – code for children from Third World countries into the homes of privileged, American couples
- growing up in a family is a child’s basic human right – code switch for “growing up in an adoptive family in America”; perpetuation of international adoption
- international adoption as a solution – code for international adoption is THE solution
- best practices – code for ways to primarily advance the process and promotion of international adoption
- orphan - a complex code word steeped in biblical meaning that has been simplified that has categorized and subsequently emotionally petitioned the adoption community into action on behalf of children in need who may or may not be legally available for adoption. It does not diminish the fact that there are children without direct care, but is overly referenced for all children who appear in need and lacking a road to Christian salvation by Western standards. At one time this terminology was antiquated, but was revived at the height of the evangelical adoption movement.
- rescue –to save a child in need by means of international adoption in a Westernized home (“being called to adopt”) and many times not critically considering the long-term implications for that child and first family, alternatives to permanency in-country or the possible reasons and/or methods in which a child was referred for international adoption originally. Taking on the theological salvation narrative and attempting to vertically apply to the child while overlooking the fact that adoption is about permanently building a family, not rescuing someone.
- resources can be reallocated to achieve more timely, effective, nurturing, and permanent familial solutions for children living without families– code for taking existing federal funds already benchmarked to promote family permanency in-country and reallocating them to ensure international adoption policy, practice, and placement is securely funded.
- shall lead the development and implementation of policies that will ensure the timely provision of appropriate, protective, and permanent family care for children living without families – policy codeswitch that will engender the least restrictive, fastest, and Western-centric measures to ensure international adoptive placement while deconstructing and maneuvering around current international and federal accountability standards in an effort to boost numbers of adoptions.
[And we find ourselves as American Indian Adoptees with this same situation in regards to the