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Friday, November 22, 2019
The Invisible Storm of Trauma #NAAM2019 #C-PTSD
trau·ma
A serious injury or shock to the body, as from violence or
an accident. An emotional wound or shock that creates substantial, lasting
damage to the psychological development of a person, often leading to neurosis.
An event or situation that causes great distress and disruption.
By Trace Hentz (adoption survivor)
After many years, in many quiet moments, I recognize that being adopted has affected me very deeply.
In
my case, the day my mother left me, how she never came back, my world
changed. All I knew as this newborn baby was my own mother was not
holding me, nursing me, talking to me. I was devastated by that. Broken.
Part of my brain shut down. That pain was too much.
That
very early experience needed to be processed as stress and trauma much
later as an adult. No one explained this to me, not even a doctor. As
an adult I understand that a church/adoption agency places an infant
with new parents and society says this is good and permanent. Good? Good
for who?
Years pass and I accept this happened to me and my early trauma scars me.
This monumental loss of my mother cracks me open and I am left to survive it, or not. No one explains
that I need to grieve this. I figure it out. After years pass, I
finally understand. This experience affected me in complex ways. This
pain has layers and layers and layers.
But
for others to tell me adoption was good for me? What? Or how I need to
accept this is "adoption." Accept it? Are they kidding? My scars are
invisible but they are there. I know they are there. I call this my Invisible Storm of Trauma!
How
Catholic Charities took possession of me, handled me, first placing me
in an orphanage then foster home, with no regard for my physical health,
or my trauma-ridden emotional body, this speaks to the inhumanity of
child trafficking and the traumatic consequences of adoption for the
infant. This speaks to the inhumanity of the deadly colonization of
Indigenous people whose children were taken from them, calling us stolen
generations. This speaks to a society that only sees what it wants to
see.
Once
adopted, you’re erased, an outsider, a stranger to your own nation, lands and people.
I prefer to think of my younger self as brainwashed.
The
bonding I had made with those mystery foster parents was also broken.
How Catholic Charities and other churches and adoption agencies did this
to millions of babies has consequences. This leaves millions of
adoptees in the state of trauma, a stranger being raised by strangers,
and a stranger to your first family.
Adoption
is a cruel and inhumane way to treat an infant. A very sick society
would do this. And removing me from my own mother affected me in ways
that are now measured and defined as post-traumatic stress disorder, or
reactive attachment disorder, or severe narcissistic injury...and this
explains how I was unable to bond with my adoptive parents.
"When a mother is forced to choose between the child and the culture,
there is something abhorrently cruel and unconsidered about that
culture. A culture that requires harm to one's soul in order to follow
the cultures prescriptions is a very sick culture indeed. This
'culture' can be the one a woman lives in, but more damning yet, it can
be the one she carries around and complies with within her own
mind....." -- Women Who Run With The Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estes
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Kevin Ost-Vollmers and Shelise Gieseke at Land of Gazillion Adoptees Blog said Feb. 26th begins BLOG WEEK to answer this question: “Why ...
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To Veronica Brown
Veronica, we adult adoptees are thinking of you today and every day. We will be here when you need us. Your journey in the adopted life has begun, nothing can revoke that now, the damage cannot be undone. Be courageous, you have what no adoptee before you has had; a strong group of adult adoptees who know your story, who are behind you and will always be so.
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We conclude this series & continue the conversation by naming that adoption is genocide. This naming refers to the process of genocide that breaks kinship ties through adoption & other forms of family separation & policing 🧵#NAAM2022#AdoptionIsTraumaAND#AdopteeTwitter#FFY 1/6 pic.twitter.com/46v0mWISZ1
As the single largest unregulated industry in the United States, adoption is viewed as a benevolent action that results in the formation of “forever families.” The truth is that it is a very lucrative business with a known sales pitch. With profits last estimated at over $1.44 billion dollars a year, mothers who consider adoption for their babies need to be very aware that all of this promotion clouds the facts and only though independent research can they get an accurate account of what life might be like for both them and their child after signing the adoption paperwork.
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Why tribes do not recommend the DNA swab
Rebecca Tallbear entitled: “DNA, Blood, and Racializing the Tribe”, bearing out what I only inferred:
Detailed discussion of the Bering Strait theory and other scientific theories about the population of the modern-day Americas is beyond the scope of this essay. However, it should be noted that Indian people have expressed suspicion that DNA analysis is a tool that scientists will use to support theories about the origins of tribal people that contradict tribal oral histories and origin stories. Perhaps more important,the alternative origin stories of scientists are seen as intending to weaken tribal land and other legal claims (and even diminish a history of colonialism?) that are supported in U.S. federal and tribal law. As genetic evidence has already been used to resolve land conflicts in Asian and Eastern European countries, this is not an unfounded fear.
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