I woke up with two thoughts: there are two victims of adoption who need help and not necessarily from each other: the adoptee and the first mother. Each has its own burden and neither can heal the other.
"...In some ways adoption practice is worse than it has ever been because it is based on even more fraudulent information than it ever was – the plight of transnational adoptees who are viewed as ‘orphans’ but are not; the deception of mothers who are led to believe they are giving the greatest gift of all in giving their baby for adoption; the attitude of young women to adoption, encouraged by the industry, the media and the lack of connect with what they are doing and the outcomes for the child; the idea that adoption is beautiful; the views that open adoption makes it all o.k. and so on. Since adoption practice gives the illusion of getting better but gets worse, you’d have to wonder "where to next?..."
Read it here: http://eagoodlife.wordpress.com/2012/10/13/naming/
READ THIS: 2010 news story from Colorado: http://www.boulderweekly.com/article-3990-judge-orders-woman-a.html
Deportation Cases: http://poundpuplegacy.org/deportation_cases
Earlier posts can be found in the 2012 archive on this blog. I am posting the links tomorrow to the six-part series on this topic...Trace