By Trace L Hentz (blog editor and adoptee)
Adoptee Clarissa Pinkola Estés, a psychologist who wrote Warming the Stone Child, said that those who have been “abandoned” and face it and work through it can become the strongest people on the face of the earth.
A few days ago I wrote a brand new blog post about an adoptee I am trying to help. She was born in Utah and now lives in another country.
Strange issues with google blogger are happening more often now. (It might be bugs, a.i. or just bots.)
Two hours I was writing this blog post then it vanished when I went to hit “publish.” Gone, Poof.
That leads me to this: we may lose this blog. It’s entirely possible. Strange bad things are happening on the internet. There are days we have no ethernet or internet connection at all. I live in western Massachusetts.
I do have a back-up blog: https://americanindianadoptees.blogspot.com/ that I updated in June 2023 with all the posts on this blog/website. I don’t want us to lose everything.
For safety I am
going to make a third blog. Here is that link. [https://iapbabies.blogspot.com]
What writing did I lose? I wrote about “what do we need as adoptees.”
For example, this adoptee was told her adoption was private, but in order to create a birth certificate, they’d need a lawyer and a judge. So there had to be a hearing in Utah.
She was born in 1981 but her birth certificate is dated 2006. That’s strange: 25 years later?
There is nothing on it: which hospital, time of birth, her weight, etc., stuff that you normally see on a birth certificate. She may not be born in Utah.
It’s essentially blank with her adoptive parents listed as her birth parents.
The information she needs is not there.
I made a few suggestions:
Register with the Utah DHHS adoption registry. Of course there is a fee.
I also suggested she get a DNA test. At least she’d find a relative.
But that is the problem too. Native people are not keen on doing a DNA test and having their blood in a database.
DNA testing is helping and has helped many adoptees get past the barbaric system called “adoption” and sealed adoption files.
Or in her case, a private adoption that may have been done illegally. We don’t know. Her adoptive mother has passed and her adoptive parents divorced when she was two years old. Did they buy her? Where is her birthmother? What tribe is she from?
There are eight federally recognized tribes in Utah.
November is Adoption Month or Adoption Awareness Month. Same thing. Same propaganda.
More tomorrow. Part 2