By Trace A. DeMeyer
First, do no harm. That is the doctor’s creed. Doctors are
part of a larger group I call The Adoption Industry. Their group includes
clergy, politicians, academics, psychology-types, social workers, lawyers and
adoption agencies made up of similar people. Apparently this group lacks
historians. If they had historians, they’d know adoption hurts the adoptee. Statistics don’t lie. Adoptees are among the highest
population in psychiatric care. If it hurts, it harms.
The mental health of Native babies and children who go
through adoption with non-Indian parents has been documented in studies for decades. Suicides, arrests and addictions are common and adoptees have known this a long time. The Indian Child
Welfare Act of 1978 was supposed to end the harm to Indian children by placing
them with other family members. Sadly, that still isn’t happening.
My friend
Stephanie Woodard wrote in Indian Country Today, here
(Dec. 1, 2012) about South Dakota’s ICWA violations:
“The ICWA
directors found that the latest information shows South Dakota is not only
taking a disproportionate number of children into custody, it is also failing
to ensure that they stay with their tribes, despite ICWA provisions requiring
that tribes have a say in their children’s placement. As of July 2011, they said,
Native American foster homes sat empty while nearly 9 out of 10 Indian children
in state foster care were in non-Native homes.
“The ICWA
directors also noted the state’s tendency to equate “poverty” with “neglect,”
which in turn results in more seizures of Native American children: “South
Dakota’s rate of identifying ‘neglect’ is 20 percent higher than the national
average,” they wrote.
“The
group also found disturbing information on the fate of children once they left
the (social care) system. Some youngsters are reunited with their families or
adopted; or they may turn 18 and “age out.” But from 1999 to 2009, the “other”
category—children who died, ran away or were transferred to correctional or
mental-health facilities—grew from 6.9 percent to 32.8 percent….”
In two conversations,
two different birthmothers in Minnesota confirmed what I was thinking about
harm to the adoptee. One mother found her son was harmed emotionally by his
adoption and is in treatment for addictions. Then an adoptee friend shared her
brother, also an adoptee, is homeless and drug addicted. Her family doesn’t
know what to do, other than hope and pray he finally gets mental health counseling
for adoption issues and not get prison-time.
This mental
health crisis has been building for decades! I sought counseling twice in my
life, and even though it wasn’t focused on adoption, it helped me recover my
self-esteem. Doing research for my book One Small Sacrifice changed me the most
and healed what I call “the wound.”
The truth that
adoption harms and hurts Native children is something we’ve known a long time. But
this truth never seems to reach our adoptive parents ears. They were not told
by Adoption Professionals they’d need to prepare for our adoptee issues and get us help early.
Propaganda by the
Adoption Industry would prefer we don’t speak the truth. Adoptees have known
that a long time, too.
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